Stand in front of a mirror. Do you like the person looking back at you?
Well, let us tell you, that you should. You are unique because there is nobody else like you. You are your own person who is amazing and deserves everything good in this world.
It may be difficult to believe this because sadly, people have stereotyped beauty; you have to have slender hips, six-pack abs, thousands of followers on Instagram, and you should look photoshopped every time you step out of the house.
Adhering to these so-called standards may not be possible for all of us. What we need to understand is that it’s absolutely okay if we don’t fulfill these criteria. It’s never too late to fall in love with yourself, and to help you a little on this journey, here are a few suggestions.
Start Dressing Up According to Where You Want to Be
If you want to lose weight, how about a little shopping for inspiration? Instead of hiding your fabulous body in monotonous and form-hiding clothing, why not opt for something more chic and sophisticated? You can wear smart clothing pieces with a trendy scarf, a chic blazer, accessories or jewelry–whatever you like.
In seeing yourself looking the part, you will instinctively be motivated to start working harder to make the changes you want to see.
Surround Yourself with People Who Appreciate You
Staying in a toxic environment is not going to be good for your self-esteem or confidence at any time. People who constantly make you feel inferior or belittle you aren’t what you need. We are not telling you to find friends who constantly shower you with praise or worship the very ground you walk on, but it will be better to have loyal and encouraging friends who instill in you the will to become better in a friendly way.
We’d also like to take this opportunity to tell you that someone else’s mental health is not your responsibility. If you feel that staying with any person is emotionally draining you, you have the full right to put yourself first, and it’s not selfish. Of course, you can invest time in a relationship to make it better. However, you should also know when to move on.
Stop Comparing Yourself to People Around You
It has already been said that you are unique. So, why would you want to lose that part of you?
Firstly, wishing that you had somebody else’s body or hair or life wouldn’t magically make it yours. Secondly, it’ll be much more effective when you start accentuating the things that you are already blessed with instead of focusing on the things that you might want to change. For example, you may have the most beautiful smile in the world. In this case, you just need to smile more and worry less.
Work on the Things that You Have the Power to Change
There are some things that you cannot change about yourself such as your height or your skin tone, but there are so many things that you can!
If you want to reduce weight, purchase a gym membership. If certain parts of your body like your stretch marks or acne make you feel conscious, use a stretch mark cream or a face mask for acne. The point here is that, instead of concentrating on things that you don’t have the power to change, start working on things you can. Trust us when we tell you that the results will make everything worthwhile.
Also, there is nothing wrong with any scar or mark on your body. You have the right to flaunt them to show your battles. However, if you want to change them or do something about it, you can do that as well. It is your body and your life.
Sign Out of Your Social Media Every Once In A While
Social media is both a boon as well as a cause. It’s wonderful that you can be in touch with so many of your friends and be aware of what is happening in their lives. But, It is also human psychology to become envious of things that we wish we could have.
You have to make sure that you don’t turn everything you see on social media a parameter. Remember, not everything on it is true – The skin isn’t as shiny as it looks, the body isn’t as curvy, and the lifestyle isn’t as stress-free and easy as it seems.
Don’t Be Afraid to Seek Professional Help If Needed
It is high time that we realize that there is nothing wrong with wanting professional help to improve your mental wellbeing. If you feel that your self-esteem and body issues are making you depressed or unsure about yourself, please do not hesitate to schedule an appointment to address the issue.
Sometimes, we may not even realize that the main cause of our insecurities may be due to underlying issues that we need to speak about. You will be shocked at the difference and change you can experience once you open up about your feelings even if it is with a professional.
Be Your Biggest Fan
Make a list of things that you like about yourself on a piece of paper. Whenever you feel bad or dissatisfied, take that paper out and go through it again. This will help you tremendously to realize what an amazing piece of art you truly are.
While you are at it, understand the fact that nobody is 100% perfect. Aiming for perfection will only leave you dissatisfied. Why not aim to simply be your best self instead?
These are a few tips from our side to help you feel more confident about your body while improving your self-esteem. Now, you have to understand that implementing these will take time, but the results are going to show 100%. Try to adopt positivity in your life, but start with your mind first.
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